This Is Gratitude Day 4. Bring On The Love, Friends.
Great friends are pillars in our lives. They carry us across the finish line when we can't take another step in this hard race called life. They are the first to hold our hands when parents go, and partners leave. They call us when we lose our job, and our bank account is empty. They go out of the way to make us feel like we are important and worthy of feeling loved in this world.
The older I get, the more I realize friends come and go in our lives. The friends that hold our hands today might be traveling the world tomorrow. The friends that call us to check in might find themselves with families in which to tend. Friends that once slept on our couch are now deeply entrenched in their career. Many think of friendship as a wooden door. The door is either open or closed. Best friends forever is a permanent law that rules the universe. Friends must always remain as close as the skin on our bones. We want friendships to be as tight as the knit on a fisherman's sweater.
However, as life moves along, it has become apparent that being lucky enough to encounter friendship is like floating in a warm summer pool. Good people drift by, and we soak in the summer rays together. One day the wind pushes us apart, and we begin to float. As the winds become bigger, they push us further away. It's important to note that we never say goodbye. We explore different parts of the pool. Sometimes we drift closer and sometimes further away.
Some might think this idea is sad. We might think friendship should be the act of clinging to each other until the end. A different perspective might be, open ourselves up to whoever drifts by as it will bring on so much more joy. Letting go of friends as they drift away will bring on so much more compassion. As the pool gets larger, the connections become greater, and we can then resign ourselves to the brevity of it all. Only then will we find gratitude in the fact that nothing is concrete and that friendship like a warm summer day isn't endless but as wide as life itself.
With gratitude friends.